So…..what’s the right thing to do here? Is there more than one right answer? I’ll set the parameters, but read on and decide for yourself what you might do in this particular situation.
What do you do if you are dating/seeing someone (whatever they call it these days)…not “officially” in a relationship…whatever that means, but seeing them pretty regularly several times a week? They are not seeing anyone else, you are reasonably sure. You have not been seeing anyone else, but not because you’re all that into the person you are seeing. You just haven’t seen anyone else, just because. (It could be for any reason that you are not seeing anyone else but not for the reason that you are really, really into the person you are seeing, because you are not. No matter how hard you try, no matter how great you realize they are…and they are great…you just don’t “feel it”.)
So, it appears to be an exclusive situtation on the outside (to everyone else, maybe even to one of you), but it isn’t. At least, there’s been no real discussion about that or about feelings for each other or what not.
There’s been no discussion (does there need to be?) about the direction things might be going, but we all know things can’t stay in a holding pattern forever. Things haven’t really moved forward for about 4 weeks now. Do they need to? Should they?
You enjoy being with the person, they really are wonderful and kind and enjoyable to be around, but you’re really in the end just not that into them…at least…not in the way you need to be in order to be something more significant than very, very good friends.
You know it probably isn’t going to mature into something more from your end, but the other person is really, really into you.
What do you do?
Have a talk and tell them straight up how you feel?
Chill, say nothing till they bring it up and keep seeing them?
Chill, say nothing and stop seeing them?
Begin phasing out your contact with them?
Some other approach?
What would you do if you were in this predicament? Have you ever been in this predicament? How did you handle it?