I finally wheedled the story about Mexico Friend’s First Date with her Husband out of her. Here it is:
Mexico Friend and her husband had quite the chemistry in the early years of their relationship. Of course, Husband was irreversibly smitten the minute he saw her. (We are all irreversibly smitten the minute we see her. She really is an attractive woman. And she’s really nice. In fact, she’s in the Makes Me Sick category. I had to video tape her this week and as I was reviewing the tapes I was reminded just how much she Makes Me Sick. The rule about the camera adding 10 pounds did not apply to her! On the other hand the rule about the camera adding 10 pounds tripled with me. How fair is that? See? Makes Me Sick. But, I’m doing the ADD thing again.)
Husband knew what he wanted the minute he saw Mexico Friend. He never let her phone grow cold and it wasn’t long after they met that they were on their first date. It was a cold winter’s eve with snow on the ground. The two of them went out for a nice dinner. Great food, good wine, wonderful time together with chemistry catching the place on fire between them.
After dinner, they decided to go for a drive in the snow. Somewhere out in the country they pulled off on a lonely little unpaved side road. In fact, it was probably more like a path. There they were, alone, secluded, nature’s beauty all around and their young 20-something hormone’s raging, fed pretty well by the wine and the chemistry. They decided to get to know each other even better.
Before long, they were in horizontal hold and things had heated up making it impossible to see out the windows of the vehicle. That didn’t matter, because the sights they both wanted to explore were inside the vehicle. They were both thoroughly enjoying this Getting To Know All About You Game and they were just really getting in touch when Mexico Friend opened her eyes for just a moment then opened them again. “There’s something shining in the window,” she commented.
“It’s probably just the moonlight shining in,” her date responded in muffled short amorous breaths. Clearly, he wasn’t interested in anything but continuing the Getting to Know You game.
Mexico Friend glanced at the extremely fogged up window again, “I think that’ s either a really large moon or it is very, very close.” Relunctantly, Mexico Friend’s Husband slowed himself down and looked up. He wiped off the window and jumped in shock. There staring back at him was the face of a woman in her 50’s. Apparently neither of them heard the woman drive up, turn off her headlights, get out of her car and tromp through the snow to the side of the vehicle where she stood staring in at them in their mostly nude state enjoying each other. How long she’d been there neither of them dared guess, but they knew what she’d seen was definitely the rated R version.
They scrambled to pull on their clothes as quickly as they could, and after dealing briefly with the strange woman who claimed this deserted path led to her house, they got out of there fast.
As I listened to Mexico Friend retell this story, I noted that she broke one of the cardinal dating rules which is No Sex On The First Date. When I questioned her about this she said, “Yeah, we did. Two weeks later we moved in and six months later we were married and we’ve been going like that ever since. We’re still like that today after 15 years of marriage and two children.”
As I sat briefly pondering these words, she continued, “When you know, you know. There’s just no question.”
In looking at these two, I have to give them a spot on my Happily Ever After List. These two have fun, humor, friendship and chemistry and they’ve kept it alive through the stresses of having children, job changes, job losses and tight finances and home remodeling projects. In spite of it all, they are as in love as they’ve ever been. I love these two because they provide for me a real life model of many aspects of the kind of relationship I want. These two have been able to weather life’s marital and financial storms for a decade and a half. They’re doing more than just staying married, they really enjoy each other and they nurture their relationship by doing the fun stuff and staying in touch with each other as often as possible.